The 10 challenging things that my Danglish family experienced from our move to the big city…
I don’t know about you but I’ve been moving for most of my life. Why? To be near family, job relocation, to be farther from family, better and safer neighborhood and just opportunity. So when my family did this last move recently from Stubbekøbing (Falster island) to the largest City in Denmark, Copenhagen, we did it with two toddlers in tow, one dog and many many MANY trips to/from rural DK. It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t exciting (yet) to be back in the big city where most of our friends/family is; it was just plan exhausting and overwhelming.
How does that saying go, “you don’t realize how much crap you have until you move.” Yes, when you are moving it does just boil down to this. Just to give you an idea of the scope of what we were moving, we had a huge two-story house with a large garage, yard (garden) and basement. We went from this to a three-bedroom apartment. Downsizing was an understatement. And our personal space is challenged. The kids now have to ‘share’ bedrooms which is a new and not fun all the time. Also, my hubs is a musician, and all our ‘storage space’ is used for ‘gig gear.’ So space has been shrinking at a rapid rate.
But, this move was necessary and we knew the challenges we were going to face. It is just hard actually going through them. As we are still getting adjusted to our new (and I mean NEW) surroundings, we still don’t have things like childcare as we are ‘wait-listed’ and the lists are looooong. Also, one day we forgot our little dog, Milo’s leash, while we were out shopping. We thought we could just leave him in the cargo bike and he’d be fine (as he’s stayed there a thousands times before). We were wrong. We came back and Milo was NO WHERE to be found. Now mind you, this is a busy area with cars and bikes whizzing by. We immediately went into ‘find Milo’ mode. Just when it was getting dark and I was trying to hold back the growing lump in my throat, my hubs called to say that the Politi found him and he’s on his way to get him. Never was I SOOOOOoooo relieved. Since then, we’ve never forgot the leash. We plan to buy about 10 more of them…just in case. The busyness of the city was just one of the things we are finding challenging here.
10 more challenges of moving to the city:
1.) Fast bikes, cars and generally a faster pace of life. Us country folks forgot about this;) Which reminds me, why-o-WHY do people walk on the left side?!? (It’s one of my pet peeves) Seriously, aren’t people that are walking on paths suppose to ‘stay to the right’ as an unspoken rule of the road? Danes don’t follow this…they stay on the left, I don’t get it.
2.) We must always lock our bikes now. Gone are the days of just parking our bikes in front of the store. People take shit here. They are professionals about it too. (See #7)
3.) Bye bye yard. Danes call a yard, a ‘garden.’ We don’t have than anymore. Property is holy hell expensive here and apartment living is the norm now.
4.) Danes speak English here! (yay!) But now its winter and people don’t communicate or smile anymore. (Shhhh it’s the Danish way;)
5.) We can’t just ‘run to the store’ anymore. This is because we don’t live by a local store…just the mega mall. I dared to go to the mall last Saturday afternoon. Never EVER will I attempt that madness again. People were combat shopping and shoving is the norm. Nope. I have to be strategic about my shopping now.
6.) But we do have nature…STILL. Thank goodness we live just on the edge of the city where we have nature trails and cows and sheep and the ocean. Thank goodness.
7.) Theft is a profession here. Recently I lost my Nikon Camera. It’s just gone. I can’t be sure if it fell out of the stroller or if it was swiped on the Metro. Apparently there are professional pick-pocketers here that don’t even have to be near you to take your shit. Either way it’s gone. I loved that camera. Now I am a photographer without a camera. Damn it.
8.) We moved into a brand new apartment building. This means all new appliances and NO ONE has lived here before us. Also, we have an elevator just outside our door. My hatred of stairs has subsided. The upside of apartment living is that our son is overly obsessed with the elevators. lol
9.) Waitlists are a norm. As stated previously, everything is expensive and everyone is trying to get in. There are waitlists for childcare, doctor placement, schools, apartments and restaurants (think NOMA).
10.) Jobs are still SUPER COMPETITIVE. But, at least there are MORE jobs here than in rural Denmark. Although, let’s be honest, I’ve been applying for jobs ever since even before I arrived in Denmark over two years ago! I haven’t had so much as an interview. I’ve had just countless rejections after rejections. Ehhhh the struggle is so real here.
This move definitely tests our limits as individuals and as a family.
Personally, being in a constant state of ‘overwhelmed’ is an understatement. But at least we have a small place that we can call our own. And I consider myself a ‘professional mover’ now. Boxes, tape, and more tape is about the only thing you need. That and a strong back;) I still don’t know where things are but as least, I’m here among more people and more diverse people’s.
We are trying and still moving and a shaking.
We are ‘city folk’ now.